Individuals dealing with a stressful boss have the potential to exhibit symptoms similar to post traumatic stress, according to researchers.
Unfortunately if you work for others long enough, you’ll come across a bad boss. And while the best way to get away from them is to get another job, sometimes the grass may not be greener on the other side.
To get through the day and manage your mental health, researchers suggest the best way to deal with a stressful boss is to get inside their head and develop your own mentally preparedness.
Researchers at Hogan have uncovered 11 derailing, or dark side, personality traits found in managers and how they are showing up in your daily life. If you think you’ll escape them by hiding in the bathroom, you’re wrong as 54 percent of managers have at least three of these traits.
In an article by the Harvard Business Review, Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic CEO of Hogan offers a breakdown of each type and coping strategies employees can use to deal with each type.
Traits: Intense mood swings, volatility, fits, bullying, harassing
Coping strategies: Descalate, stay calm, wait for the storm to pass
Traits: Inability to trust, cynical, paranoid
Coping strategies: Use data-driven arguments, don’t question or get in their face, they’re not going to trust you.
Traits: Fear of criticism, risk-averse, analysis paralysis, reluctance to embrace opportunities
Coping strategies: Follow process, move slowly and don’t break things if you want to influence them.
Traits: Disinterested in others and their feelings, inability to communicate, hard to read
Coping strategies: Communicate via email rather than face-to-face, respect their privacy and don’t put them on the spot.
Traits: Stubbornness, conflict avoidance, passive aggressiveness, passive resistance, uncooperative
Coping strategies: Don’t push them, don’t assume they agree with you or will help you, even when they seem positive
Traits: Arrogance, entitlement, narcissistic, won’t accept they made a mistake
Coping strategies: Play to their egos, don’t belittle or blame them, particularly in public
Traits: Manipulative charm, reckless risk taking, boredom, impulsivity
Coping strategies: Play politics, gossip and have fun with them but be very careful
Traits: Melodrama, exhibitionism, attention seeking, and lack of focus
Coping strategies: Be a loyal spectator, let them entertain you, don’t compete for the spotlight
Traits: Eccentricity, un-pragmatic originality, unfeasible visions, wacky ideas
Coping strategies: Be enthusiastic about their ideas, focus on the big picture, and be ready to execute or pick up the pieces
Traits: Obsessive, micro-managing, impossible standards, counterproductive perfectionism
Coping strategies: Don’t be careless, pay attention to quality, maintain high standards
Traits: Eagerness to please authority and manage upwards, putting subordinates last
Coping strategies: Be rule-abiding, loyal, and help them please their own bosses
In the mist of figuring out the daily emotional status of your boss, remember to take care of your mental health to cope with others. If you are stressed out and your boss is too, then interactions will be increasingly difficult and cause additional friction in the office.
Chamoro-Premuzic said to make sure and become a valuable resource to your boss. And if your boss sees that everyone is aware of your value “they will be concerned that you may sooner or later leave them.”
Original post from Tishin Donkersley at Tech.co